How Do These Perfect Moms Do It? (Spoiler: They Don’t, and That’s Okay!)

 What’s up wonderful, amazing, sweet, and lovely people!

Thanks for stopping by Maryam’s Joyful Life blog today.

I have a question for you… how on earth do these “perfect moms” do it?

You know the ones I’m talking about — always looking spotless, smelling fresh like they just walked out of a luxury candle shop, and not a single hair out of place… even with an infant in tow.

Me? That’s not my reality.

I breastfeed, which means I’ve got big, sweaty breasts to keep clean, washed, and fresh all the time. My baby is a true foodie — and by foodie, I mean I’m basically her favorite napkin. It doesn’t matter if I’m wearing my whitest, crispest dress or the most expensive outfit I own… she’s going to wipe her little mouth and hands right on it. Every. Single. Time.

Do I carry burp cloths and extra napkins? Yes.

Does it matter? Nope. Somehow, I always end up as the main napkin.

Am I upset about it? No.

Am I sad for my poor white clothes? Maybe a little.

But as a mother to a happy, healthy, loud, and gorgeously sweet baby? Heck NO! I wouldn’t trade it for anything in the world.

Motherhood — in all its messy, goo-covered glory — is a gift I am forever grateful for. Every season I’ve spent bringing forth life has been one of my best seasons yet, because God trusted me with His precious gifts. Dirty clothes or not, every moment is worth it.

So, if you see me out in public smelling like baby poo, spit-up, or looking like I dove into a garbage can filled with mashed sweet potatoes and peas… I’m wearing it with pride and gratitude.

And if you’re in the season where your clothes are always stained and your hair hasn’t been washed in days, I want to encourage you:

Shift your perspective and give thanks.

There are thousands of people who would give anything to be in your position. Many are right now praying for babies and the fruit of the womb. Count your blessings, and don’t let false expectations — from social media or anyone else — make you feel small, less-than, or left out.

Allow yourself to truly enjoy your baby. Savor these growing moments. God is working in every step, and you may very well be nurturing the next great leader the world will ever see.

Mama, keep going and be encouraged. Soon enough, your breasts will be your own again, and your little one won’t be so little anymore. But for now, these messy, beautiful, exhausting, joy-filled days are building a lifetime of memories and lessons.

Thanks for reading.

Don’t let anyone steal your joy.

Sincerely,

Mama Covered in Baby Food,

Maryam ❤️

WOMEN WHO HAVE LOST A CHILD

 

What's up wonderful, amazing, sweet and lovely people. How are you all doing today? I hope you're having a great day today and are not letting anyone steal your joy. Welcome to Maryam's Joyful Life. Today is a beautiful day. Thank you for checking out my blog today.

Le'Veon came after I lost my first child. He is my Rainbow baby💙😇

Have you ever lost a child and are still crying and heartbroken from it? Are you desiring to have a child after a loss? Do you have a heavy burden on your heart after that loss? I hear you. I see you and I have been there. I want to tell you that everything will be alright. The heaviness in your heart will not always be there. A time will come when it won't hurt as much and you'll be able to smile again.

Today, my hands are heart are full with two amazing babies.

I am believing God that you will smile again. You will be blessed again and your heart will be full again. God knows how to restore and give you more than you lost. Hey sis, that loss you experienced is actually gain. God is getting ready to fill your nest with amazing babies. I really want you to believe it. When you begin to look to God and trust that He's not going to leave you empty, you better get ready. 

There's about to be cries of babies, heard from your nest, mama. Your life is about to make a new turn. You're about to start buying diapers and getting sleepless nights, from caring for your little Angels. God is about to give you double for your trouble, sis. Are you ready? 'Cos they are coming. He did it for me. I know you are next. He will do it for you.

Here's what I want you to do: get ready! Start seeing yourself carrying your healthy baby. Visualize yourself staying up at night feeding your baby. Start imagining yourself doing the things that other mothers with babies tell you that they do for their babies. What you don't want to do is focus on the loss. See, the plan of the enemy is to get you to focus on the loss and start asking God why it had to happen to you. God is never the bringer or doing of bad things. 

Every difficulty and challenge we experience, is an opportunity for God to show forth His power. You may have lost a child, but you are about to gain twins. Lift up your eyes and stay focused on God's promises for you. The Word of God says in Psalm 127:3 " Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from Him."  

Don't watch shows or read books about how to cope with loses. Those materials only keep you in a negative mood and depressed. You want to read books and watch programs about children and how to handle babies and parenting. You want your mind to be focused on being a mother. See yourself as a mother and spend time with other mothers with children. I promise, you will carry your babies.

When the thought comes to remind you of your loss, affirm the promises of God to yourself. "I am a mother of nations." "My children call me blessed."

As you do this, you will see the glory of God manifest in your life.

I pray for you, today. May God grant your heart desires like He did mine, In Jesus Name. Amennn

With gratitude,

Maryam