Stop Expecting Yourself From Others: Protect Your Peace and Joy

 What’s up, wonderful, amazing, sweet, and lovely people?

How are you all doing today? I hope you’re having an amazing day and not letting anything steal your joy. Welcome back to I’m Joyful Life—it’s a beautiful day, and I’m so grateful to be here with you.

Today, I want to talk about something that quietly steals our peace more than we realize… expectations.

The Trap of Expecting Yourself From Others

One of the fastest ways to become discouraged, frustrated, and emotionally drained is expecting people to be exactly like you—to think like you, respond like you, and handle things the way you would.

The truth is… they won’t.

And when they don’t, frustration creeps in.

I’ve experienced this personally. Even with something as simple as asking my kids to wash dishes or clean the table a certain way. No matter how clearly I show them, they still do it their way. And yes—it can be frustrating.

But then I have to pause and remind myself:

I’m the one stealing my own joy—not them.

They’re learning. They’re growing. And they are not me.

Grace Changes Everything

This is where grace comes in.

When we try to mold people into our exact image, we set ourselves up for constant disappointment. But when we allow people to be themselves—to grow in their own way—we create space for peace.

Give people:

Room to learn

Room to grow

Room to be different

Because the same way it took you time to become who you are, it will take them time too.

When People Don’t Show Up for You

Now let’s be real—sometimes it goes deeper than small frustrations.

Sometimes you’ve been there for people. You’ve supported them. You’ve carried their burdens.

But when it’s your turn… they don’t show up.

And that hurts.

It’s disappointing. It’s heartbreaking. And it’s okay to feel that.

But here’s the truth that will protect your peace:

Just because you show up for others doesn’t mean they will show up for you.

Shift Your Expectation

Instead of expecting people to repay you, shift your expectation.

Give from your heart—but don’t depend on people for your reward.

Trust that God sees you. Trust that God will provide. Trust that the right people will show up at the right time.

Because they will.

Not always the same people you helped—but the right people.

Choose Joy Over Control

Trying to control how people act, think, or respond will only drain you.

So today, release that pressure.

Tell yourself:

I don’t need everyone to be like me

I don’t need everyone to understand me

I don’t need everyone to show up the way I expect

I choose peace. I choose joy.

Let people be who they are. Let yourself breathe. Let grace lead.

Final Encouragement

We’re all human. We all fall short sometimes.

So instead of holding people to impossible standards, give grace—just like you would want grace in return.

Today:

Show yourself grace

Show others grace

Let go of unrealistic expectations

And protect your joy at all costs.

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Thank you so much for spending this time with me—I truly appreciate you.

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Thank you again for being here.

And remember…

Don’t let anybody steal your joy.

It Had to Happen – Day 8 of December

 

It Had to Happen – Day 8 of December

Good morning, wonderful, amazing, sweet, and lovely people! I hope you’re having an amazing day and not letting anyone steal your joy. Welcome back to Maryam’s Joyful Life.

Today is December 8th, and I want to share an incredible insight I received yesterday from my amazing pastor and mentor, Real Talk Kim. These are things I’ve been reflecting on and believe will be inspiring for you too.

At church, Pastor Kim was teaching from our current series, Messy Miracles. During the sermon, she said four simple words that really resonated with me: “It had to happen.”

Think about that for a moment. Every struggle, setback, and unexpected moment in your life—no matter how difficult—happened for a reason. Even the things that seem messy, confusing, or painful are part of a bigger plan that is shaping your growth, your healing, and your future blessings.

Sometimes we get frustrated when things don’t go the way we want. We may wish for instant answers, perfect timing, or smooth roads. But the truth is, life’s detours and challenges are often exactly what we need to become stronger, wiser, and more prepared for the blessings waiting for us.

So today, I encourage you to take a deep breath and embrace your journey—messy as it may seem. Trust that even when things feel overwhelming or uncertain, it had to happen. Your past, your struggles, and even your mistakes are creating the path to your miracles.

Stay joyful, stay hopeful, and remember—you are exactly where you need to be.

Day 7 — The Power of “No”: Protecting Your Peace and Reclaiming Your Life

 

Day 7 — The Power of “No”: Protecting Your Peace and Reclaiming Your Life

What’s up, wonderful, amazing, sweet, and lovely people? Welcome back to Maryam’s Joyful Life! Today is Day 7 of December, and I’m coming to you with a powerful insight I received from my amazing pastor and mentor, RealTalkKim.

I was watching her podcast episode from December 3rd titled “Find Your Balance” (you can find it on YouTube on the RealTalkKim channel), and she said something that hit me deep.

She talked about how when you don’t know how to say no, you slowly become everyone else’s tool. You become a puppet—pulled in every direction—and eventually, you burn out, grow resentful, and lose yourself. Whew… that one went straight to my heart.

One thing she said that I’ll never forget is this:

People who get mad at your “no” were never your people in the first place.

Let that sink in.

And then she added something else that struck me even harder:

Don’t let someone else’s urgency become your urgency.

So many of us get caught up in other people’s emergencies, feelings, or expectations. If we’re not intentional and mindful, we get sucked into problems that were never ours to carry. Emotions are magnetic—especially for those of us who naturally feel deeply. I know this firsthand.

When emotional people come to you with their overwhelm, their energy can sweep you right into a storm. Before you know it, your peace is gone, your mind is racing, your chest is tight, and your whole day gets hijacked. When emotions run your life, happiness becomes unpredictable—up today, down tomorrow—and you lose the ability to rest.

So today, I want to encourage you the same way Pastor Kim encouraged me:

When your mind starts racing, when anxiety creeps up, stop and breathe.

Try this grounding mantra she shared:

Inhale: 1, 2, 3 — exhale: Holy Ghost.

Inhale: 1, 2, 3 — exhale: Holy Ghost.

Say it slowly. Let your body settle. Let your spirit find peace.

Because the truth is this:

You have one life that you know you’re living right now. If you spend it stressed out, overcommitted, and constantly trying to please everyone, you will never fully live or enjoy it.

You shouldn’t reach the end of your life filled with regret because you were afraid of disappointing people… afraid of saying no.

Remember this:

When you say yes to everyone else, all the time, you’re saying no to yourself.

You’re taking away the time you need to rest, reset, reflect, and pour back into your own soul. Without that space, without that self-care, without that renewal, you have nothing healthy left to pour into others. You serve from emptiness, which leads to frustration, irritability, and emotional exhaustion. That helps no one.

So today, hear my heart:

It is okay to say no.

It is okay to rest.

It is okay to pamper yourself.

It is okay to pause.

When your cup is full, everything you give comes from overflow, not depletion. And that overflow is where joy lives. That’s where grace lives. That’s where love flows from.

Serve from fullness—not survival.

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Find your next getaway and give yourself permission to breathe again.

We don’t need any more emotional chaos or psychic pollution in this world. We need more peace. More joy. More intentional living. More people choosing themselves so they can show up better for others.

So on this Day 7 of December…

Be your best self.

Protect your peace.

And most importantly—say no.

You deserve a life that feels good on the inside.

And it starts with boundaries.

Have an amazing day, beautiful soul. You’ve got this. 💛