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For a long time, I was going hard for everyone. I made sure everyone’s needs were met—constantly. By the end of the day, I was completely exhausted. Some nights, I didn’t even have the energy to take a shower before bed. I would lie down depleted, knowing I had poured everything out but hadn’t poured anything back into myself.
There was a deep anxiety attached to it too. I felt like if I took even ten minutes to tend to myself, someone would need something, and I wouldn’t be there. In my mind, that meant I had failed them—and failed myself.
It was almost like an out-of-body experience. I could see myself overgiving, stretching myself too thin, going to bed exhausted night after night. I was meeting everyone else’s needs while completely abandoning my own.
What really opened my eyes was this: the moment I stepped back, even slightly, to tend to myself, everyone became anxious. Suddenly people wanted to know where I was, what I was doing, and why I wasn’t available to meet their needs. The unspoken energy felt like this: serve us with every ounce of your strength, and abandon yourself.
That was the moment I knew something had to change.
I began intentionally taking time to meet my own needs. I started becoming more vocal—saying no when necessary and asking others to handle their own responsibilities. It wasn’t easy. Honestly, it felt like carrying a boulder on my shoulders. It was uncomfortable, heavy, and unfamiliar. But I kept going anyway.
Now I’m learning more about personal boundaries. I’m creating space for myself to regroup, refresh, and rejuvenate. And little by little, I feel more balanced. I’m not perfect at it yet, but I’m getting better—and that matters.
Maybe you see yourself in this story. Maybe you’re living with constant stress, meeting everyone else’s needs while abandoning your own. If so, let this be your moment too.
Take a break today. Make a decision to create boundaries for your sanity and peace. If you don’t, you’ll never truly have time to live—and resentment will quietly grow, toward others and toward yourself.
No one can make this change for you but you.
Here is your permission to stop abandoning yourself. Your kids are fine and will continue to be fine after you take that ten-minute shower or bath. Your spouse is capable of taking care of the kids—and himself. The world does not revolve around you, and that’s okay.
Take a break today for your sanity.
Don’t let anyone steal your joy.
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You deserve rest. You deserve peace. And you deserve you.
